Throughout the year, we have evolved into a cohesive and connected group. We met monthly, rotating between peoples' homes although a few times we met in other venues such as Rebounders, a restaurant or a sports pavilion. The host mom and daughter would plan a craft or a game as well as a potluck meal and lead discussion topics that the group had suggested the previous month. Discussions have included gossip, bullying, boy-girl relationships and appropriate clothing choices. The girls were initially very shy, but have become so comfortable that they are leading discussions and opening up with much ease.
We met again last week culminating our first year together. The weather was beautiful, we met at a neighborhood pool and the day was just perfect. The girls initially went in the pool while the moms chatted around a table. When they got hungry, the girls gravitated towards the snacks at the table adjacent to the moms. Before we realized it, the girls had pulled up chairs and we were all gathered around the table sharing stories of summer trips and camp.
Later that evening one of the moms sent a group email reflecting on how nice the day had been and how she noticed that the girls had pulled their chairs up to our table, something that would not have happened even a few months ago. We were operating as a unified group; moms and daughters as a unit. One mom was helping my daughter with make-up advice, something that is fairly foreign to me while another girl shared how she allocated her allowance for her back-to-school purchases. It was so special to witness how close the girls and moms have become over the last twelve months.
I have been thinking about offering a group of this nature for moms and daughters through my practice. Many moms in my community have commented on how wonderful our group is and how helpful it would be for them and their daughters. This group would be structured a bit differently as I would be the facilitator and not a mom. It would be in my office and have some differences to the one that I have been writing about; I see a great deal of potential having it in such a setting with the ability to grow very strong bonds and do meaningful work as has been done in our group in a less formal setting.
I am asking you readers for your thoughts. Would this be something that you and your daughter might be interested in? Would you be willing to commit to a monthly and/or twice a month meeting which would include some, yet to be decided, fee? Would you be open to this fabulous experience for not only your daughters, but for you as well (the relationships that we have formed as moms have become as important to me as have the relationships between the girls)?
Please do chime in as it will help me to decide if the interest is out there for this type of group. I have invested time and energy into other groups that have not taken flight, so trust that your feedback is very important. Thanks for your thoughts.